tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-63655525517772307772024-03-05T10:30:30.744-08:00POINT BLANK.*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.comBlogger252125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-15956256462461437982020-04-26T03:34:00.001-07:002020-04-26T03:34:33.770-07:00From Drafts<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I sometimes miss being in unrequited love<br />
to text them<br />
to overthink their text<br />
to romanticize every moment<br />
to actually dream about them in technicolor<br />
to feel excited<br />
to check my hair a lil extra before seeing them<br />
to stand in a way your bum looks cute<br />
to talk in a way your lips look irresistible<br />
to obsess about fake breakup<br />
to write about him<br />
to talk about him<br />
to cry about him<br />
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-35064209492121068832020-03-04T07:52:00.000-08:002020-03-04T07:52:51.392-08:00Mine<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
So I am sitting in my room<br />
of my house<br />
working on my laptop<br />
as my music<br />
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Wow. You did good, kid.<br />
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Stress about real life tomorrow now. </div>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-63679391397871715042020-02-25T21:59:00.003-08:002020-02-25T21:59:58.750-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-49992434236957436182020-02-25T21:33:00.000-08:002020-02-25T21:38:32.226-08:00Too Young To Old<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I feel like I am constantly oscillating between two feelings.</div>
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One part of my brain tells me this: <i>You're only 28. It's okay if you don't know what you want. Look at all the amazing things you have gotten to do so far. Look at all the kickass people you have gotten to interact with in your journey. Look at what a full life you have lived! Do what you want to do. If not now then when?</i></div>
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You also hear these incredible stories about people who went back to school in their 50s or started a successful business in their 40s. Stories that reiterate that age is just a fucking number. </div>
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But then there is the other part of my brain that can't escape the societal model of living life. That can't escape the conditioning all of us are a part of. It's the same conditioning that tells you to finish 10th grade then 12th grade then college then get a job then get married then have babies and yep, you're wrapped up by 30. You are a full adult. Now live this life, congratulations!</div>
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Which brings me to the other part of by brain that says: <i>You spend your 20s working hard and laying the foundation for the rest of your life. Hustle hard at all costs, think about marriage, think about your eggs drying up, about investments, think about where you see yourself in your 50s. If not now then when?</i></div>
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The rest of my life? WOAH! That's a long long time! In our 20s, technically we haven't even lived half our lives yet. And if we think about it, can we really count all the time before say you were a teenager as "living''? So we have, what, like 15 years of being an actual functioning human.</div>
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And as the world is going these days, who knows how much of the rest of my life is left anyway?</div>
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-8995422425625837692019-10-27T21:28:00.001-07:002019-10-27T21:28:25.016-07:00Imposter vs Libra <p dir="ltr">Diwali is an interesting time. Probably the only time in the year when I feel homesick. But it's so temporary, it's annoying.</p>
<p dir="ltr">It doesn't happen a lot, but I wake up feeling alone these days. Noone to talk to and nothing to talk to even. I wake up really early, so most of my friends are asleep hence not available at the time. And then I decide to smoke some. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Wake And Bake is one of my most favorite rituals of all time. The inimitable silence of the morning with the slight chill in the air goes very well with some generous portions of marijuana. I sometimes can't believe that I am essentially a stoner now. Remember growing up when that was just not an option? You were never going to do "drugs" and then you grew up. And yes, marijuana was "drugs". And now... Oh well. <br>
I don't remember the last time I was in a social situation where noone smoked. It just does not happen anymore. When did we get here? </p>
<p dir="ltr">I truly enjoy getting high tho. It's great. Always fun. Convinient. No hangover. I should have led with the "no hangover", right? Can't believe how many days of my youth I've wasted on hangovers. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Anyway, it doesn't happen a lot, but I wake up feeling alone these days. And then I decide to smoke some. And it feels like I need someone around... Oddly, to take care of me. To ask me questions about what thoughts I've been having, to make my bed for me, to eat breakfast with me, to discuss how great Koffee With Karan is, to really analyze what happened in 2014, to tell me they love me. </p>
<p dir="ltr">It's odd because it's not a consistent feeling. And more importantly, I am actually very loved and understood and supported and rooted for. But every now and then it all seems like a big lie. The imposter syndrome kicks in and there are very few places to go from there. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Interestingly tho, these feelings don't persist through the day. In my vulnerable morning high state, I text a bunch of people. I drop a heyy, make it seem like a casual check in, make plans with them for the day.... And by the time they're up, my feelings passes. By the time they text me, I'm back to not needing anyone. Which brings me to my 'crazy'. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I recently met this girl that I had a great time with and she asked me what my crazy was cz I seem so sorted. And I was like, hm, noone has ever asked me that before. So I asked her what her crazy was and she said her obsession with what people think about her. She told me how earlier she would meet me and on her way just replay the whole meeting to obsess over all the times I may have judged or she came across as stupid. Over time she's become much better and now whenever she spirals, she reminds herself that this is her overthinking and not the reality. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I thought about it briefly and I told her I think my crazy used to be my obsession with men. Or my relationship with them. I never knew what I wanted but I wanted something. I'd be emotionally abusive (and abused) and manipulative for no reason. And there would always be some around. I'd always be either getting into or getting out of some man noise. I'd want them and I'd hate them all at them same time. Over time I realized that my problem wasn't so much that I was in love them. My problem was that it would bother me if they were not in love with me. If I'd see them drifting or moving on, I'd lure them back in and seduce them into loving me more than I needed to be loved and then feel suffocated by it. It was constantly on. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Does that make sense? </p>
<p dir="ltr">After a time, I recognised it and almost cut of all relationships - sexual or otherwise - that aren't adding any value to my life. If anything, are taking away more for me. I think that was an important decision towards the person I am proud to be today - Zen, calm and without so much noise in the head. </p>
<p dir="ltr">It doesn't happen a lot, but I wake up feeling alone these days. And then I smoke some. And by the time my people text me, I'm back to not needing anyone. And I can't help but think if as years went by, I've replaced my need for men to love me more than I need with my need for people to love me more than I need. My days go in seducing them into staying interested and as soon as I have the attention, I want to cancel all plans and parties. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Of course, this could also be some high talk. I scored some kickass stuff for my birthday which was last weekend. And i spent it with some of my favourite faces and my heart was full of pure unadulterated love for them. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Gues this is what being a Libra is about? Agreeing with everything and not with anything all at once. </p>
<p dir="ltr">Wow. Astrology? Yah, must be really good stuff. </p>
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<p dir="ltr">Bye. </p>
<p dir="ltr">It was fun vent-writing after so long. Wow. </p>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-80299689488128972702019-10-27T20:52:00.001-07:002020-02-22T05:14:17.101-08:00Instagram Captions <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-83523535468714418782019-04-24T10:46:00.001-07:002019-04-24T10:46:48.615-07:00Indians Hate Doctors<p dir="ltr">I cry each time I speak to my father. <br>
It is not even intentional or voluntary.<br>
It just happens.</p>
<p dir="ltr">It is not even related to the conversation we had on the phone.<br>
It is not even because of anything he may have said.<br>
It just happens.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I hang up and I let tears roll down my face for a gold 30minutes as I just sit there in silence. And then wipe my face and go on with my life, almost without acknowledging that this is a fucked up pattern. </p>
<p dir="ltr">The good thing is that we don't talk often. Or at all really. The conversations are few and far between. So by the time it happens again, I usually find myself having forgotten the pain from the after math of the previous conversation. </p>
<p dir="ltr">The bad thing is that I find it really hard to cry otherwise. So for all intents and purposes this is my only real release. And I am not emotionally ready for a deep dive into my subconscious to figure why I feel what I feel. </p>
<p dir="ltr">But right now, I am not feeling too good. <br>
I am not feeling up to unravel the multiple layers of our relationship. <br>
But I am feeling sad. And helpless. And overwhelmed. And the tears aren't stopping. </p>
<p dir="ltr">At what point do I bring this up with someone? At what point do I need to seriously address it? <br>
At what point does this change? <br>
Does it ever? <br>
Or is it like those headaches you get once in a while if you're out in the heat for too long, you pop a pill and then you forget about it, cz the headache isn't an active part of your life any way.</p>
<p dir="ltr">And Indians hate going to doctors and getting lomg term solutions anyway. So.... <br><br></p>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-54786293141373605782019-01-31T19:15:00.001-08:002019-01-31T19:15:38.826-08:00Aloof<p dir="ltr">I guess we just have to realize the control (or lack thereof) we have over people or things. </p>
<p dir="ltr">I guess what naturally happens then is that slowly but surely you start getting out of fucks. The sentiment that it stems from is that if the things you do for someone is never really going to be enough, you might as well stop. Take a step back, try seeing it from an objective point of view.</p>
<p dir="ltr">And what happens when the objective point of view doesn't make sense to you?</p>
<p dir="ltr">I guess you start getting <u>aloof</u>. </p>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-2624384308529506372016-12-30T10:39:00.001-08:002016-12-30T10:39:29.948-08:00Tattoos<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I am big believer of tattoos. It’s rather surprising, given my commitment phobia that’s only managed to run deeper over the years. But I love tattoos and the idea of getting a tattoo. It’s such a beautiful expression of who you are/were/might want to be and if it didn’t cost as much as they do, I’d be getting a few neat ones every year.<br />
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I also don’t pry too much about other people’s tattoos or what the meaning behind each branding is. I just smile internally each time I see a person sporting one. I don’t know why there’s so much pressure about justifying your tattoo to the other person - I’m just like, you wanted to get a Pinocchio’s nose on your dick? Do you, man! You think butterflies are the coolest thing in the world and that’s why you got them tattooed on your shoulder? Well, they probably are! The judgment needs to stop.<br />
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When people ask me about my tattoo, I tell them something vague now: I tell them I was drunk when I got it. I tell them it means nothing at all. I tell them it reminds me of the recklessness of my youth. I actually once had someone believe that my and my then BFF were all set to get matching tattoos, but she bailed on me after I got mine.<br />
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My conversations with people tell me that what scares everyone most about tattoos is the sheer permanence of it. Which is weird, because most of us have managed to embrace our permanent insecurities just fine. Also is it just me or the fact that you felt something strong enough to have it drilled on your body fucking incredible? So what if you “regret” it years later? Like, you didn’t regret your outfit at your 11th birthday party.<br />
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I mean, say I am dating someone and I get the person’s name tattooed on me. As most stories go, say I break up with that person and life goes on. Will it not always be amazing to me that I was capable of loving someone so deeply? Isn’t that what most of us want - to be able to love endlessly, uncontrollably and infinitely. </div>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-58928847501045624932016-12-03T04:50:00.001-08:002016-12-03T04:56:51.551-08:00Boobs.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
He was obsessed with my boobs. He was one of my first few consequential sexual experiences in life and he just couldn’t get enough. He’d grab them as he pleased, he’d put his head on them and sleep in on rainy afternoons and he’d suck them till they hurt sometimes. I was in the 10th grade and if I’d leave my top button unbuttoned of this particular yellow shirt, it’d make him crazy.<br />
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I remember the first time he touched my boobs. It was my first real kiss and I’ll forever be indebted to him for making it as amazing as he did. I still feel tingly when I think about it - which admittedly, is often enough. There we were - I was pinned against the wall in a dark room and he kissed me like he’d loved me forever. His hand slowly slid inside my shirt and I think I was way too young to feel what I felt.<br />
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Like I said: tingly.<br />
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Years after we broke up, we reconnected and conveniently fell into a pattern of hyper-sexual behavior. We stopped making love, but we’d fuck all the time. He was still obsessed with my boobs. He’d suck me off in the backseat of his car and ask me for pictures when I moved to a new city. He’d pinch and he’d bite and I’ve seen him jerk off once to me just stroking my nipples softly.<br />
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We were really good in bed together, but I guess when you’re young and doped out, you need more loving than you need love. He was still obsessed with my boobs. I remember I’d met him once with someone else’s marks on my chest and he wasn’t impressed at all. He didn’t look at me when he came that day.<br />
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It’s almost poetic then that it was he who found the lumps in my breasts.</div>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-65151778506868420152016-09-12T08:50:00.003-07:002016-09-12T09:36:47.557-07:00What Is Your Dream?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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When did we grow up, exactly? It happened like a break-up almost. You know the kind of break up that happens over time - gradually. So gradually that you don't even realize when it sneaked up on you. You leave each other in such slow motion that when you finally cut the cord, you barely miss each other. <br /><br />Also, when exactly can we officially start calling ourselves grown-ups?<br />
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-60330970902376310932016-06-06T10:45:00.000-07:002016-06-06T10:45:36.633-07:00Same Time Tomorrow?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
It usually happens to me a few moments before I sleep last night. You know, that time of the day when you're just contemplating your split ends, analyzing the weather, thinking about the one that got away, wondering if your parents will ever be able to be happy again, making up your mind about lunch tomorrow... that's when it happens to me. I think about writing and how I've spent another day without it. But as anyone who's ever known me would tell you, I'm good at convincing people of ideas that may not be their own originally and sometimes I see no harm in using the same tactics on myself. Why the hell not, right?<br />
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So I tell myself it's okay.<br />
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<i>"No one reads your blog anymore. You scribbled some notes in your diary the other day. That surely counts, doesn't it? You do have a writing job, how are you possibly going to churn out any more words? Your thoughts aren't that important anymore. Maybe you only could write when you were in love with someone - and no, being in love with yourself doesn't count. You don't have a man to document; yup, no muse... that's the problem."</i><br />
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It usually happens to me a few moments before I sleep last night. You know, that time of the day when you're just contemplating your split ends, analyzing the weather...<br />
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-64973864328834570982016-02-15T06:56:00.001-08:002016-02-15T06:56:27.592-08:00Let's Dance!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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He looks at me differently when I dance. I don't know what it is, but something changes in his face. His eyes have glint and he smiles almost unknowingly. He looks at me as if I am someone else - someone he wants to hold, someone he wants to kiss, someone he wants to pin down and fuck. </div>
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-34675653653355110312015-11-28T22:42:00.002-08:002015-11-28T22:42:43.434-08:00I'm Definitely Blogging Again!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
So I spent my Sunday morning reading some very old posts on this blog. What it did was that it took me back in time. I smiled about things I hadn't in a while, I thought about people I'd blocked from my memory, random incidents came back to me and then I realized - I need to document my life again - or the lack of it.<br />
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My blog turned 5 in Feb this year! Happy birthday, baby. I love you. I really do. </div>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-84909513493451310442015-11-28T09:12:00.001-08:002015-11-28T09:12:28.509-08:00Love.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-75596139434151047302015-11-28T07:38:00.001-08:002015-11-28T07:38:12.889-08:00Regret.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I do live with one major regret - losing her because of my own doing. How could I let a decade of pure love and trust crumble to shreds just like that? What was I thinking? Was it just the need for "excitement"? Was it just the need for a story? I hope not. </div>
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The whole thing really did change me though. It started with the acute self realization of being a horrible person. If I could do it to her, why was anyone to trust me for anything at all? Slowly but surely that turned into a conscious decision of living a life I was more proud of. To go out of my way to ensure that nothing I do hurts anyone in an irreparable way. </div>
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I've always maintained that none of the amazing things that have happened to me in the last decade would've happened if it wasn't for her. I still have her picture up on my wall because I can't possibly throw it away. Or her. She is still listed as my sister on Facebook, for crying out loud! And even now, I'd drop everything and tend to her if she ever needs me. </div>
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I think about him and her every now and then and I hope that after all the drama, at least they've found the love and compassion to be with each other. I heard from someone the other day that he hates me and wants to kill me and somehow, I didn't even feel bad. It's been so long that his hatred seems like a small bargain for their happiness. And none of this is me being a martyr. </div>
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I guess all I really am is terribly sorry - to him, to everyone else who had to suffer without being at fault and mostly to her because she was my entire life. And I get that she might never want to forgive me... because I can't forgive myself either. </div>
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-24629739475234534502015-11-28T07:03:00.000-08:002015-11-28T07:03:05.769-08:00Should I Get Back On The Dating Scene?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I think I'm going to get back on the dating scene.<br />
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I used to be so good at it! And the false sense of validation would really rock my socks. I don't know how or when I just got off it. I think it happened because I got into a serious relationship with this woman I love and after that didn't work out, an annoying fuck aka Rebound Guy was part of my life exclusively. When that ended, I was on and off Tinder to get laid every now and then, but the zest for finding someone to have fun with just ended. Not that I'm looking for the "someone to have fun with" just yet, but I could do with some exciting dinner plans, heavy drinking and deep yet meaningless conversations with strangers.<br />
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I've never really been scared of strangers I think. I guess that happened when the "familiar" has never really worked out in your favour. </div>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-62229058289962950112015-11-28T06:50:00.000-08:002015-11-28T06:50:56.747-08:00Stoned Face. <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I like my face when I'm stoned<br />
Somehow the skin glows. Radiates more like. And the bloodshot eyes add a little color.<br />
The lips shine just a little bit as they hold onto the last bit of moisture in their mouth<br />
The mole under my eye seems prominent<br />
And I see how my front teeth may discolor soon<br />
Don't know what it is about it?<br />
Maybe the calm<br />
Maybe the stability<br />
Maybe the music<br />
Maybe the friendship<br />
Maybe everything I never had<br />
But I like my face when I'm stoned. </div>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-43916254744869128872015-11-08T02:09:00.002-08:002015-11-08T02:14:00.383-08:00Drunk Writing.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I'm trying something tonight. I'm documenting my drunkness.<br />
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You know how they say "write drunk, edit sober''? It makes a lot of sense unless you, like me, take a while to get drunk. Or actually that was back in the day when I was <a href="http://youandimeet.blogspot.in/2015/11/former-party-girl.html" rel="nofollow">a party girl</a>. Now I need three solid drinks after a full day's work and I'm knocked out. Anyway, tonight I'm homealone. And that really is a luxury when you share a 1BHK with two friends in Bombay. So I've decided to drink myself to write. Yup, I'm pretty sure that's a phrase.<br />
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Let's see how this goes...</h3>
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<b>60ml Whisky x 1</b><br />
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Nothing yet. Like I said I take a while to get drunk. I feel like this might have been more fun if anyone actually read this blog like they did a few years ago. I remember getting so excited each time I got a comment. Anyway, I'm thinking of chugging this one, Just to set the ball rolling.<br />
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<b>60ml Whisky x 2</b><br />
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So I just told one of my closest friends about my plan of documenting my drunkenness on my blog tonight. She is definitely supportive. She's hoping I drink as many as 10 large pegs tonight. Slim possibility of that. I'm not 19 anymore. But I remember when I was. I don't even know how <a href="http://youandimeet.blogspot.in/2015/08/on-most-days.html">T</a> and I got through grad college with the amount of alcohol we had in our systems. Good times - it seems like another century altogether. We really are growing up.<br />
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Anyway, I must tell you about this friend of mine. I met her about two years ago when I was studying Journalism for my post-grad in XIC. Honestly, I don't think XIC added any educational value to my life at all, but what an eventful year that was! But that's another story for another day. Coming back to this friend, I love her; I really do. I don't know exactly when we became friends but I feel like my main attraction towards her is the fact that she seems eerily like me - and that's amazing for someone who is as narcissistic as I am. We live in our own heads and have very strong opinions about things. We'r okay if other people don't accept this opinion - we're not looking for that validation. We believe in the idea of love, but are too practical to give it our all just yet. We value relationships and are very clear about who our "friends" are - even if we're guilty of throwing that word around loosely. We are bloody good at our jobs and most importantly, we are hilarious women.<br />
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Honestly, I don't think I can put my finger at just how close we are. But I know each time something monumental happens in my life, I think I'd like her to know :)<br />
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<b>60ml Whisky x 3</b><br />
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Okay, this shit is working now. I love when plans work out. I'm already apologizing for typos that may occur going forward.<br />
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I have a nice buzz now.<br />
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My relationship with alcohol has got to be one of my most consistent relationships ever. Unless you count my relationship with "Ross." Actually you can't - it was/is anything but consistent. I feel like I still think about him or talk about him purely for nostalgic value.<br />
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OMG! Deepika Padukone just tweeted this photo and I'm dyinggg!!!<br />
http://www.missmalini.com/2015/11/07/deepika-padukone-just-posted-photos-of-ranbir-kapoor-ranveer-singh-no-really/<br />
This is like the Shah Rukh - Salman Iftaar hug, but better!<br />
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Oh well, I love Bollywood, BITE ME!<br />
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Time for another drink... I'm definitely not sober now.<br />
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<b>1 Cigarette </b><br />
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Hey hey hey! Look what I found - a cigarette!<br />
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Technically, I quit this year. Which means that I only smoke when I drink now and that too, I try and share a cigarette with a smoker friend. I think it's pretty clear that tonight is not a sharing kind of a night.<br />
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<b>next drink</b><br />
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I've done the craziest thing. There's this guy I talk to on Twitter sometimes. Purely platonic. We DM flirt every now and then. And I can't stress on this enough - purely platonic! However, I don't understand what happened right now exactly, but I'm homealone (as I mentioned already) and he is coming over. Erm.<br />
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Did I mention this was platonic?<br />
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SO THAT'S WHY I'm not supposed to be drinking by myself? Riiiight.<br />
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OMG, he's here!</h3>
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More tomorrow...</div>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-71074985092446903502015-11-07T08:48:00.000-08:002015-11-07T08:51:29.156-08:00Zen<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I feel like I am at a point in my life where I'm spending way too much talking to myself and even more time taking personality tests that don't tell me squat. Is this what they call quarter life crisis? I don't think so though because contrary to what I thought my life would be like when I'm as old as I am, life is pretty fucking good.<br />
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I would like to believe I'm killing it at work, I have found the friends I'd like to spend my life with (or so it seems), I am actually eating healthy ( let's see how long that lasts), I am having enough sex (mostly virtually though, sigh) and I am mentally not cluttered.<br />
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I can't remember the last time this had happened.<br />
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-8789252576209809512015-11-07T08:46:00.002-08:002015-11-07T08:46:46.690-08:00Former Party Girl <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I used to like going out. No, cross that - I used to love going out.<br />
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I loved parties and large gatherings and people din't scare me. I don't think they scare me now as much as they annoy me. It takes too much effort to fake interest in their small talk anymore and I'm not naturally drawn to the "broken" ones who nurse their drink in the corner of the room anymore. About two years ago I'd walk into a room full of strangers and do a stand-up bit of sorts. Everyone would fall in love with me and I'd thank Mrs. Liquid Courage for my star-like quality.My Instagram would flood with #aboutlastnight photos and strangers from the night would hit me up on Facebook the morning after.<br />
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I don't know when I got over the whole thing. I don't know when I realized that it doesn't really do anything more me. But as I type this I can't help but wonder if the realization came to me, or did the parties stop happening.<br />
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I've always known a lot of people in varying capacities of intimacy. Some probably got busy, some probably I lost on the way, some probably just didn't do it for me anymore, some probably started exploring ewer interests that didn't excite me and some probably started hating me. Maybe it was the lack of parties that forced me to prefer staying in.<br />
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I'm sitting here on a Saturday night with a glass of whisky by my side while my roommates are out for a Diwali party, trying to resume this blog, And I actually don't mind that.<br />
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When did we get here?<br />
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Old-age, is that you?<br />
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One of my closest friends was in town and she asked this girl if she got along with this other guy she wanted to have lunch with, so that all three of them could hang out. The girl said most nonchalantly <i>"It's not about getting along, everyone can get along... but what's the point if I don't have fun?"</i><br />
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That's that, I guess. I stopped having fun.<br />
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And what a tragedy that is.</div>
*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-5821319319234787432015-08-30T03:13:00.000-07:002015-08-30T03:23:08.704-07:00I Remember My Dream! aka TOW Too Many Parenthesis!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Oh my god! This has literally never happened before - I actually remember a dream I had last night with fair clarity.<br />
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It was midnight and I was outside the house I grew up in.<br />
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<i>Wow! "...the house I grew up in" Who would've thought this is something I'd ever get to say. It's funny how things turn out; I actually have a house I grew up in. How old am I? 80?</i><br />
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I was walking in search of fairly lights. That's right! For some reason, I was walking on an empty road in Delhi, outside the house I grew up in, to buy lights.<br />
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<i>Fairy lights are awesome. We need fairly lights.</i><br />
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I crossed the spot I spent years of my adolescence at.<br />
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<i>Looking back, that spot is 'the spot' in my growing up chapters. Such monumental discussions, controversies, gossips and moments have happened in that spot that I'm actually smiling as I type this. Like, the time I kissed him on his cheek and it became the fodder for the aunties for weeks after or the time my mum caught me chilling with my friends there when I was supposed to be at the gym. Good times... </i><br />
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There was no one on the streets; no one important, anyway. I don't know if I was home for a break or for good,<br />
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<i>I hope it was a break. I don't think I can do Delhi anymore.</i><br />
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but I called him. True to character, he promptly picked up. I asked him who he was with and he just refused to tell me. I told him I'm in grave need of some fairly lights and I must have them asap. He laughed at me saying how amazing it is for me to believe that I'd get that anywhere at this hour of the night. I told him very confidently that I know a place in Santa Cruz that sells them and I'm sure they're open at the moment. "Will you take me there?" "Ummm... chal aataa hoon! Meet me at the spot"<br />
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<i>Catch: Santa Cruz is in Bombay.</i><br />
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The dream changed plot after that, so I'm not sure how this one concluded.<br />
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When I texted him about the dream today, this is what he replied:<br />
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What a fun story that'd make!</div>
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-13904995978598692402015-08-30T02:10:00.001-07:002015-11-07T08:51:12.745-08:00I'm A Woman, Hear Me Roar!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I am starting to have a serious problem with how everyone talks about women. I am starting to have a serious problem with how women relate to women. Just, when did we get so bitchy? Perhaps, we always have been and the glaring realization of it all has only just struck me. Sorry for joining the party late, I guess. </div>
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A few days ago, a fairly normal, educated lady told someone "why do you think all the crazy nutjob hot girls get the most amazing guys?" WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?!?!</div>
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Why can't she get a "hotter" guy because she's not "attractive" (to you!)? What do you mean she "looks like a lesbian''? So you're telling me you like her "even though she's fat"? Why is it so hard for everyone to accept the possibility of a woman having made it without sleeping her way to the top? And even if she did, isn't the sexiest thing in bed consent? And about that... there are way too many rape jokes doing the rounds and the thing is, just who can we possibly blame for this? The media alone? I don't know. </div>
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And then today, I happened to watch Avril Lavigne's Girlfriend video and cringed. Not so much at the video as at myself for watching this on loop growing up without stopping for a second to really see what the video is advocating. It makes me sick! How is it possible that only Shraddha Kapoor with her beautiful baal and pokyy-free hair piss me off when I've been a media consumer since birth? Is misogyny really that internalized? </div>
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And dare I say any of these things to anyone without being called a 'feminazi'... yup, not a feminist, not a humanist, not an equalist; a femiNAZI. </div>
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Do you even know what Nazism was and its endless repercussions on humanity? Ugh. </div>
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-46658301634250111682015-08-26T09:57:00.000-07:002015-08-30T03:46:02.399-07:00On Most Days.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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T and I have been friends for close to a decade now. Actually, cross that - We've known each other close to a decade now and that's really not the same thing. Especially, if you're like me and have known a lot of people over the years. </div>
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When did we become friends exactly? I don't know. What made us identify each other as best friends exactly? I don't know. Why are we still friends exactly? I don't know. </div>
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But I do know that she's feels like home (on most days, anyway). </div>
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I realized it after living with her for about 6 months that we've actually been on a super long sleepover. Late night conversations, morning selfies, weight loss plans, pasta making, way too much alcohol and one too many cigarettes. Nothing has seemingly changed except now we can actually light up in our bedrooms, as opposed to sneakily smoking in her bathroom because her parents are in the house. </div>
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It feels like we've grown up together. Just the other day when I was reading some stuff she wrote back in 2012, I realized just how much the both of us have changed. Is it commendable then that we still are what we are, despite the changes?</div>
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We don't like the same kind of people, food or activities. Hell, our go-to alcohol isn't the same anymore either! But, like she put it so beautifully - We may hate on each other all day and she may not approve of most of my life choices, but she tells me if anyone else does the same, she's going to break his face. And I believe her, mostly because she did kill a snake once. True story. </div>
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Would I be friends with her if I met her now? I don't know. But I'm glad I am friends with her.<br />
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Because I do know that she feels like home (on most days, anyway).</div>
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*orange plum*http://www.blogger.com/profile/11356651416657297074noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6365552551777230777.post-44916787276534777532015-08-24T06:38:00.001-07:002015-08-24T06:42:17.447-07:00Choosing Your Family.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<i>Write! It really is that simple!</i><br />
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I guess I do this without even realizing. Who can I possibly blame for this? A family that was a little too "practical" for its own good?<br />
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I sometimes feel that I, subconsciously, go through life trying to find someone I can be a sister to or a dad who'd be ideal for me, You know how they say you choose your friends, but your family you're born into. I think I'm sometimes trying to choose the latter (not taking away anything from the brilliant one I have!); with great failure, might I add.<br />
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A man came into my life a few months ago in a work capacity. We got along well enough for two professionals and were comfortable enough with each other to share funny life anecdotes from the past. I don't know when it happened exactly though, but I feel sometime between a story about his grad days and our last shared cigarette, I started looking at him differently - as a <strike>father</strike> father figure.<br />
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Months later I woke to the rude shock that I may have, in some weird way, overstepped. </div>
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